When a Bully Taunts

Taunting

Is based on an imbalance of power and is one-sided: the bully taunts, the bullied kid is taunted.

Is intended to harm.

Involves humiliating, cruel, demeaning, or bigoted comments  thinly disguised as jokes.

Includes laughter directed at the target, not with the target.

Is meant to diminish the sense of self-worth of the target.

Induces fear of further taunting or can be a prelude to physical bullying.

Is sinister in motive.

Continues especially when targeted kid becomes distressed or objects to the taunt.

When a bully taunts her target, there is no playfulness in the attack, no matter how much the bully may protest, "I was just teasing." The bullied kid was probably targeted because the bully knew he or she would not strike back. There is no good-natured give-and-take. The taunt is intended to isolate the target. It is intended to hurt, and the words are demeaning and cruel. The bully may  laugh, and so might the bystanders. The target is embarrassed, humiliated, or shamed, living in fear of what will come next. There is no empathy or compassion; rather, there is glee, excitement, or amusement over the success of the attack. The motive of the bully is not to make a new friend, engage in friendly banter, or lighten a difficult situation; it is purely to belittle and demean another child.  

From

The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander 

by

Barbara Coloroso

genocide is born out of the human bully heart, explicitly cruel, the soul putrid inside those who have no shame

Bully Bully

Who Are You

What Do You Feel

When You do What You Do

 Taylor Wynn (16) and Mckenzie Barker (15)

Girls charged with cyberstalking classmate

By Valli Finney

Published on: 1/13/2011

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Two Estero High School teens were arrested Wednesday, charged with cyber bullying a classmate after officials learned of a fake Facebook account with sexually explicit photos.

The two girls, Taylor Wynn, 16, of the 22000 block of Seashore Circle, and McKenzie Barker, 15, of the 9800 block of Springlake Circle, each face a charge of aggravated stalking of a minor younger than 16.

'The case came through detention hearings today,' said Samantha Syoen, a State's Attorney's Office spokeswoman. The girls were ordered to have 21 days home detention and will be arraigned Feb. 8.

The investigation began on April 29 when a parent told a school resource officer about a Facebook account, which contained inappropriate, sexually explicit pictures and statements about the victim, according to a Lee County Sheriff's Office report. The account had 181 'friends.' Officials could not confirm whether the victim still attends the school.

The school resource officer, Deputy Allen Thierer, spoke with several students including the victim, who said she did not make the account and initially thought it would 'go away.' But the victim was 'subjected to numerous incidents of teasing and ridicule for an ongoing period of time as a result ...,' Thierer reported.

The Facebook account was established to look as if the victim was the creator.

Facebook is a social online networking site where people can 'friend' each other and post comments and photographs. It has rules against posting nude photos, anything that incites violence, uses hateful words or is threatening.

However, Facebook itself does not pre-screen the hundreds of thousands of photos uploaded to it daily.

The items posted on the fake account included a photo of the victim's head placed on top of a nude girl's body, a photo of a man's genitalia near her open mouth and comments about sex acts, according to the report.

The first Facebook page was created on April 20 and had 181 friends. A second account about the victim was created April 29 and had five friends, according to the report. Both of the pages were created from the same Internet address owned by Heather L. Wynn, Taylor Wynn's mother, according to the report.

The Sheriff's Office team of investigators assigned to the FBI's Innocent Images Task Force took over the investigation and subpoenaed numerous records.

The Wynns spoke with investigators and Taylor Wynn said she made the page as a joke because she thought it would be funny, adding she and the victim were 'friends at one time but they do not like each other now,' according to the report. 'Taylor said that no one liked the victim and she thought it would be a funny joke to make the Facebook page.'

Taylor Wynn said Barker sent her a picture of the victim and Taylor Wynn added the male body part and used a computer program to manipulate the victim's photo.

Heather Wynn 'asked her daughter what made her hate the victim so much that she would do something so mean?' according to the report. 'Heather also asked her daughter why she was picking on the victim. Taylor responded: ?because nobody liked her.'' When contacted by telephone Thursday, Heather Wynn declined an interview.

Barker's parents did not return a telephone call seeking comment.

Students at Estero High School talked about the incident Thursday.

Makenna Lucy, 15, has known Barker since sixth grade and said she is one of her best friends. Makenna said she used to be friends with the victim. She knew about the Facebook page, but said she didn't comment on anything on the fake page.

'When I heard about it, I was just kinda ?whatever' about it. But I kinda pictured that happening, someone making a page about (the victim,)' she said walking out of the school's parking lot Thursday afternoon with a group of four other teens. 'I'm worried, but like I didn't know it'd be going on for this long. (I) thought they dropped it.'

Joe Donzelli, a school district spokesman, could not answer where the teens attend school citing a federal law on student's privacy. It is against the law, he said, to comment on specific students.

When a student faces a felony arrest, the district notifies school administrators who notify teachers and the bus system.

'If charges are brought, that then changes things and the child may be moved to an alternative educational environment if it's determined that is in the best interest of the child, schools, etc.,' Donzelli said.

The investigation took some time because investigators had to serve search warrants and subpoenas and gather evidence, said Lt. Ryan Bell, assistant commander of the major crimes bureau which houses the investigators for the task force.

'We were able to gain access to the Facebook page through the assistance of other students and substantiate and get information on who established and created the Facebook account,' Bell said Thursday. Investigators also recovered text messages and e-mails between Barker and Wynn about the incident.
One Lee County parent knows all too well how cyber bullying can be deadly.
Debbie Johnston's son, Jeffrey, committed suicide at the age of 15 in 2005, one year after the cyber bullying statute was enacted in Florida. But it wasn't enough to charge the young man who did the bullying, Johnston said Thursday, adding that the law existed, but law enforcement wasn't 'educated' about it.
Johnston, who lives in Cape Coral, was a driving force in getting the 'Jeffrey Johnston Stand Up for All Students Act' signed into law in 2008. It requires school districts to adopt a policy and protocol for bullying in their schools, and it mandates the state track bullying incidents.
Johnston's son was bullied for three years, in school and online. She sympathizes with the victim in this case as well as her father.
The girl's mother died before the Facebook page was created, officials said.
Johnston wanted to send the girl and her father a message: 'If I could speak to her (the victim), I would tell her that none of this is her fault and she did nothing to bring it on herself,' Johnston said. 'The problem is with the (suspects) who perpetrated this cruel act.'
Sophomore Monica Wells, a 16, who lives near the school, said she doesn't know Wynn, but Barker is a 'nice girl.' When learning about the circumstances of her arrest, she was shocked.
'I think that sucks for her, if she did do that. That's stupid to harass someone. That's not nice,' she said standing with a friend in front of her neighborhood. 'Cyber bullying is pathetic. ? It just leads to everyone else doing something stupid and think it's OK.'
Staff writer Sabina Bhasin contributed to this report.
E-mail Valli Finney at vallimfinney@yahoo.com

Bully and You Pay Consequence Forever

Washington state middle schoolers walk out of class to protest bullying after classmate commits suicide

Hundreds of Washington state middle schoolers walked out of class Monday in memory of a 12-year-old bullying victim who committed suicide.

Amber Rose Caudel was mercilessly picked on, driving her to hang herself last week, her dad told KIRO-TV.

Scores of her classmates at Evergreen Middle School in Everett marched off campus at noon to protest bullying and remember the 7th grade cheerleader and track star.

"Amber wanted to be popular. Amber wanted to be one of those kids that everybody wanted to be with," her dad, Scott Caudel, told KING 5 News. "It doesn't matter if you knock their books out of their hand, or give them a dirty look, or call them a name, it hurts.?

Caudel said his daughter was name-called and tormented online and in person. Cruel kids called her a geek, harassed her on social media and even spit on her, he said.

He reported the abuse to her school at least twice, but nothing seemed to stop it, he told Q13 Fox.

School officials could not immediately confirm those reports.

Last Thursday, Amber?s teachers told her she?d have to repeat 7th grade if she didn?t bring her grades up ? her poor academic performance was another symptom of the constant bullying, her dad said. Hours later, the 12-year-old hanged herself.

Amber?s friends said she was on the cheer team and ran track. She was affectionate and kind ? and undeserving of the torment.

?She was an awesome person. I don't understand why anyone would do that (bullying) to her,? her friend Alyssa Glen-Strobel said.

School officials said the students who walked out of class will not face disciplinary action. The district already has anti-bullying measures in place, such as a bullying hotline, but officials will hold meetings with students to discuss possible improvements to the current system, a district spokeswoman said.

Caudel hope his daughter?s death will help teach students how harmful bullying will be and will encourage the school to take abuse seriously.

?I'm not mad at one person. I'm not mad at Evergreen Middle School. I'm mad at the system,? he said.

If you bully anyone it will come back to get you and this is a promise. You do not get away with any act of degradation or humiliation. Your laughter and cruelty will be HELL to pay.